this past week…

May 15-21.


*The school year. This was Rich and Annie’s last week of classes for the spring semester (with this current week being finals week). As has been the case most of this year, I’m frustrated as hell and clueless as to what else to try to make Max actually care about school. He was actually doing fairly well this last quarter, but totally fell apart during this last week. I think it’s a combination of things with him: incredibly poor organizational skills (we’ve tried so many approaches and nothing seems to stick with him), laziness, and the fact that he just doesn’t much care. And Gray and I are still plugging away. He worked a bit over the weekend in an effort to finish the year up early. His school year goes until June 21st, but if he busts his butt he’ll easily start his summer vacation before that.


*Flapjack continues to be happy about the abundant dandelion crop.


*Preserving season has officially begun with the canning of the first two pints of rhubarb jam. I always look to preserving season with about equal parts dread and excitement. It would be entirely excitement if it weren’t for how hard it can be on the damn fibro when there’s a lot to do in any one day/week. Anyway, here’s hoping for a successful growing season and lots of food in the pantry by winter.

*I think I only finished one book. Even with Bout of Books, it’s just been a really slow reading month. Part of the problem (always) is the fact that I have too many books going at once. (Of course this can be really misleading in the opposite direction as well, on those occasions when I finish four or five books over the space of a day or so.) Anyway, I finished Kate Tempest’s poetry collection, Hold Your Own, based on the myth of Tiresias. It was really good.


*Max spent a couple hours at the doctor Wednesday evening. He’s had this respiratory/sinus infection thing going on for what seems like forever. Finally by the end of the weekend, he’s starting to see a wee bit of improvement.


*Thursday was an awesome day for Annie. There was an awards ceremony for all the scholarship winners. (She had won one of the three scholarships awarded from the biology department.) Following the ceremony, there was, according to Annie, one of the best receptions, food-wise, that she’d ever seen. LOL.

This girl kicks ass, I tell you. She also won a biology scholarship from some association of 2-year schools. And she won the highest merit scholarship they award from ESF, where she was accepted into the chemistry program. And earlier she’d won a scholarship from the English department. Four scholarships in three different areas of study–can’t claim she’s not well-rounded.

She got to celebrate a little bit more on Friday when the biology department threw a little reception for the scholarship winners.


* Thursday was an awful day for Gray. He went with Rich to take the placement test so we could get him registered to take an online class at MCC in the fall. Despite his test anxiety, he made it through and did excellently on the test. But during the afternoon, he had a meltdown when Rich wanted to go to Annie’s award ceremony. Autistic meltdowns are hard on us, of course, but nothing compared to how hard they are on him. Rich has found him an isolated table, so he wouldn’t have to interact with any other people, but this wasn’t good enough for Gray. He wanted to wait in the car. But being 93 degrees that day, that was just not going to happen. I’m very proud of him–he eventually managed to pull himself together, he told Rich to go to the ceremony, and sat at the isolated table until Rich got back about half an hour later. Sadly, he sat in a state of near panic, was unable to focus on any schoolwork, and managed to scratch the entire side of his thumb to a raw bloody mess. Life just isn’t easy for this kiddo, but he makes me proud and grateful to be his mom every damn day.


*I cannot even remember the last time, all five of us have been together as much as we were this week. And believe me, we’re treasuring every single instance it happens! Friday night we all went out for pizza, Saturday we all went to Tim Hortons for work session, and Sunday we were all home to eat supper together. Woohoo!

*Tried a new recipe. For homemade French bread. Found it here. So easy to make! Definitely not the most flavorful bread ever, but it got thumbs up all around nonetheless.


*And finally, on a very sad note, Charley seems to have took a turn for the worse again. Refusing to eat, throwing up, just generally not being his happy little self. I’m afraid the vet’s hope for six months was too optimistic. He goes back to see her tonight…



3 thoughts on “this past week…

  1. Poor Charley! I hope he is feeling better soon, in whatever capacity that means.

    That French bread looks amazing. I have never tried anything more ambitious than a quick bread. That’s not true. I have tried making cinnamon rolls from scratch and somehow screwed up the dough so that it did not rise as fully as it should have. Since then, I stay away from homemade yeast breads, no matter how glorious they smell.

    How old is Max? Depending on his age, his lack of interest in school could be age-related. I know we had the exact same frustrations with Connor when he was in 9th and 10th grade (it actually started in 7th but culminated in high school). It was not until he faced his junior year, complete with college visits and ACT and SAT tests where he finally realized that he does have to work in high school. He turned himself around and managed to get into National Honors Society this year, but we know his grades his first two years hurt his scholarship chances. We are not the only ones to have this type of experience with teen boys. It seems most of our friends with boys in that age range face similar experiences. I don’t know if it is gender-related, age-related, or other mitigating factors, but it is odd that you don’t seem the same lack of interest from teen girls.


    • Thank you Michelle! You have no idea how much better it makes me feel (or maybe you do), to hear this about Connor. And yeah, you had Max’s age pegged–he’s in 9th grade. And I’d say his lack of interest did start last year, but got markedly worse this year. Seriously, thank you so much for sharing this!

      And if you ever decide to give the yeast bread thing a try again, I recommend that recipe. It was so easy! And this is coming from someone who is definitely NOT a bread baker herself.


      • I will try baking yeast bread again some day. I imagine it will be when the kids are gone or when Holly is in high school. I think I just need more time and patience, something that seems to be lacking these days.

        You are very welcome. I can’t say that we did anything to change Connor’s mind about school. Based on our experience and that of our friends, it is something they have to realize on their own. But don’t give up and don’t stop fighting. He may resent it now, but there will come a day where he will appreciate what you are trying to teach him.

        Watching Connor miss out on academic awards and scholarships, knowing that he is as intelligent if not more so than those who did earn them has been a bitter pill for Connor as well as for us. But it is a good lesson for him and one that I think will fuel him in college. He now understands the consequences of slacking off in a way that his peers don’t get. Just hang in there. It is not easy and definitely caused friction in our relationship that we are just mending, but I do think he is a stronger person and our relationship will be stronger because we continued to fight and coax and encourage even when he seemingly gave up on himself and school.


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